We are expected to be" superwomen" as soon as we confirm a positive pregnancy test. For first-time moms, I must say that the expectations that we know it all already can really take a surprising toll on most of us. Let me confess it is not an easy road as many perceive, but the journey to motherhood is quite worth it.
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“We are expected to be" superwomen" as soon as we confirm a positive pregnancy test.
You are perfectly "perfect" the way you choose to do things
I cannot emphasize enough that you are perfect just the way you are as a mom. In other words, " there is no perfect parent, we are all on a journey of trial and error."
As soon as your family is aware of your pregnancy, do expect the opinion of every person, whether it's your mom, grandmother, mother-in-law, sister, etc.
Your grandmother may prefer natural birth, your mom may prefer cloth diapers and your sisters may prefer organic baby food, based on the current market trend. Your head will surely go for a spin on top of all the excitement and partial terror of bringing a new baby to the world.
The key to surviving this time is to navigate through all the opinions and do what comes naturally to you. Some you may adapt to based on your comfortability while others may send you running for sure. You will have your own preference for everything and it doesn't have to be your grandma's way. Do what is best for you and your family.
I am still learning that after having two boys, that my way of raising my boys and my mom's way are now totally different and that's completely ok.
Do not panic at the Doctor's appointment
The visit to the Doctor for prenatal appointments can be exciting for some while terrifying for others. The fetal heartbeat checks, ultrasounds, and tests can leave many fearful and terrified of what can go wrong.
This should not be the case. Every moment to hear your baby's heartbeat and see the progress of your pregnancy journey should be an exciting time and not a fearful one. Have a strong faith as you attend every appointment knowing that your little one will be perfect when he or she arrives exactly as planned and according to your trusted OBGYN's advice.
Squash the anxieties of motherhood
There is absolutely no need to panic about whether or not you will be a "good" or "bad mom". It really does not matter. Motherhood instincts come naturally to every mom given the opportunity. There is never a "perfect mom" just a mom who is willing to go with the ups and downs of parenting.
You are uniquely made to take care of the child God has selected you to care for. You will realize on this journey that motherhood kicks in naturally and most fears for the most part fades away as you become more comfortable with what seems natural to you. So do not panic, just be who you are and it will all come naturally.