This is parenting

Updated: Dec 6, 2019

When it comes to parenting, PERFECTION is not expected. Each individual is unique in their own style of parenting. Parenting styles can also be influenced by your own belief system, culture, background etc. It is always important however to keep informed and get expert advice on parenting tips that you can implement at home. Just because grandma "spanked" does not mean that you have to do the same. I am always learning and researching ways to implement new parenting ideas with my own kids. How has your journey been when it comes to parenting? You can express your views in the forum section.

While on my quest to learn new parenting techniques I can use at home on my kids to improve certain behaviors I have learned some terms that are use in the behavioral science world that I found to be interesting and useful.

Each person is unique in their style of parenting that can be influenced by their own belief system, culture, background etc.”

I have provided you with some tips and tricks that I have discovered along the way about behavior modification.


This includes those things that strengthen or increase behavior. For example, praising a child (reinforcement) after the child receives an A on a test (behavior) will increase the likelihood that the child will work hard for good grades. There are two types of reinforcement depending on the addition or subtraction of a reward or negative outcome (be mindful when reading that negative does not imply bad as we perceive it to be but rather the removal of a reward) This is explained in more details below.

Positive Reinforcement

This is the addition of a reward following a desired behavior with the purpose of increasing the likelihood the behavior will occur again.

For example: If you are always telling your kids to put away their toys with no success. Here is a better way to handle that situation. You can implement a reward or treat (cookie, candy, sticker, tv time etc) each time they pack away their toys. That particular behavior you desire will eventually develop. Because the child wanted the treat, they were learning the desired behavior. Your child will look for the treat each time they pack away the toys until it becomes the norm to do so.

My Tip: I use Gummy bear vitamins as my reward system at home. They have to take their daily vitamins anyway so why not use that as a reward treat. Mommy is happy toys are all packed away and the child gets their daily vitamin.

Negative Reinforcement

This strengthens a behavior by taking away a negative outcome as an effect of the behavior. When a negative result is avoided by performing a specific action, the preventative behavior becomes more likely to occur again in the future.

For example: It's a beautiful, sunny day and you are going outside to swim some laps in the pool. You change into your bathing suit and head out the door. Suddenly, you remember that you forgot to put on sunscreen. You want to avoid sunburn, so you go back inside, get the bottle of sunscreen, and apply it before returning to the pool. You've likely learned from experience that a sunburn hurts very badly. Applying the sunscreen is a behavior response to avoid the negative outcome of sunburn; and so, avoiding sunburn is a negative reinforcement for putting on sunscreen.

My Tip: Kids running all over the house can cause an unexpected fall. As a result of that experience, the child is less likely to start running all over the house again because they are avoiding the negative result that occurs from falling.