This is parenting

Updated: Dec 6, 2019

When it comes to parenting, PERFECTION is not expected. Each individual is unique in their own style of parenting. Parenting styles can also be influenced by your own belief system, culture, background etc. It is always important however to keep informed and get expert advice on parenting tips that you can implement at home. Just because grandma "spanked" does not mean that you have to do the same. I am always learning and researching ways to implement new parenting ideas with my own kids. How has your journey been when it comes to parenting? You can express your views in the forum section.

While on my quest to learn new parenting techniques I can use at home on my kids to improve certain behaviors I have learned some terms that are use in the behavioral science world that I found to be interesting and useful.

Each person is unique in their style of parenting that can be influenced by their own belief system, culture, background etc.”

I have provided you with some tips and tricks that I have discovered along the way about behavior modification.


This includes those things that strengthen or increase behavior. For example, praising a child (reinforcement) after the child receives an A on a test (behavior) will increase the likelihood that the child will work hard for good grades. There are two types of reinforcement depending on the addition or subtraction of a reward or negative outcome (be mindful when reading that negative does not imply bad as we perceive it to be but rather the removal of a reward) This is explained in more details below.

Positive Reinforcement

This is the addition of a reward following a desired behavior with the purpose of increasing the likelihood the behavior will occur again.

For example: If you are always telling your kids to put away their toys with no success. Here is a better way to handle that situation. You can implement a reward or treat (cookie, candy, sticker, tv time etc) each time they pack away their toys. That particular behavior you desire will eventually develop. Because the child wanted the treat, they were learning the desired behavior. Your child will look for the treat each time they pack away the toys until it becomes the norm to do so.

My Tip: I use Gummy bear vitamins as my reward system at home. They have to take their daily vitamins anyway so why not use that as a reward treat. Mommy is happy toys are all packed away and the child gets their daily vitamin.