Do's and Don'ts of Potty Training

Updated: May 11

Potty training seems to be every mom's dreaded list of checked items to accomplish in your child's development. It is also the most feared when it comes to the expectations of your child not meeting the pre-determined standards of when a child should be fully potty trained.

Both my children had their own unique difficulties with potty training. My eldest potty trained quickly but still struggles with the overnight process, while my youngest potty trained past the required timeline but did excellent with overnight training.

I too attended seminars, read books, etc. to get the information needed. But at the end of the day, the best advice was to let it go and just let it happen. Each child is different.

So here is what I think about potty training and I can tell you some of the DO'S and DON'TS of the potty training process to kind of help you to stress less about it.

Are you currently potty training? How is it going for you? Please feel free to ask questions or express your views in the FORUM section as well. I would love to hear from you.

“Here's to the do's and dont's of potty training that I have figured out.”


1. Do have an open expectation that not everything will go perfectly according to your plans but adjust as you go. Yes, you may want to get on the potty training developmental goal as quickly as possible to check that off your to-do list...but guess what?

Just be reminded that it all depends on your little one's readiness for the process. Instead of fussing about it and maybe throwing some adult temper tantrums around, just let it happen naturally when your child is ready to be trained.

There are ways to check for readiness in your child such as bladder control (whether they are able to remain dry throughout the day), physical (showing interest in going to the bathroom), and instructional readiness (ability to listen to instructions and follow them) that can help you to know just when the moment is right. But until then, chill momma. You are going to be just fine.

2. Do make sure that you and your spouse or your family are ready for the process as well. Many times there may be differences in the expectations for each child in both parents.

I was "the relax, no fuss let it happen naturally”, while my husband was “ready to get it off his list so that his diaper bills would be less”. You have to both be on the same page in the process when your child is in fact ready.

Have the conversation and clear any unmet expectations prior to starting the process. You do not want a child that is ready but then there are differences in how to actually carry out the process. Make it a priority to both be on board for a smoother transition.

3. Do create time in your schedule to facilitate the potty training process. That would mean maybe taking a weekend off, or some weekdays if possible.